I rung in the new year with the ex who left me in hospital... he wanted another chance and I can tell you how that ended.. in 2019 I will not be recycling exes anymore!!
I had an amazing summer, have met and made some wonderful new friends, become so much stronger in myself and my beliefs, built my boundaries and confidence, started exercising consistently, went on my first solo trip abroad, advanced in my career and started two new great jobs with fantastic brands, moved back to London, went to some amazing gigs and completed my vocational qualification.
However, this is also the longest I have ever been single - I've been dating all year, with a few relationships lasting 3 months or so but have had nothing concrete. Mostly I've managed to avoid the fuck boys although they have crept in there, especially towards the end of this year unfortunately and I have gone back to talking to and seeing ex boyfriends which I shouldn't have. I do feel very alone, even though my support network has been so great and reinforced this year I do miss having that connection romantically. The last 3 months have been especially difficult - I lost a close family member at the end of the year in the same week as a terrible break up (more on that later maybe) as well as finding myself sliding back to depression and anxiety. This past week I always find difficult as there is so much emphasis on reflection which for someone who buries their feelings is very hard. I'm writing this after 3 hours sleep as I am really struggling with insomnia again.
To end on a positive, this year I have discovered more of who I am and am happy and confident with what makes me, me. I do have lots of wobbles but I have a strength inside of me which I have never experienced before. I find it so easy to focus on the negatives but writing this down shows me how much I have actually achieved - even if it isn't the path I thought I would take. Here's to 2019 and building on the success of 2018.
My big and little wins of 2018
- Travelled to a foreign country and holidayed there solo for the first time
- Built a sense of self and my confidence
- Didn't take shit from men.... mostly!
- Made the right decisions for me....mostly!
- I didn't crumble and go into crisis each time I got knocked back
- I self harmed only a few times this year
- I am so much stronger and resilient whilst keeping my empathy
- Lots more reading and achieving my reading challenge
- Took more 'me' time and tried new activities - more exhibitions, socialising, crafts, experiences!
- I excelled in my job and worked for two amazing companies after getting the courage to leave a job and industry I hated
- I was a good friend and partner without compromising myself
- Built and stuck to my limits and values
- Looked after and loved my cat
- I found a flat and moved back to London
- Took care of granddad and did everything I possibly could for him
- I loved with my whole heart even when it opened me to being hurt. I didn't let my vulnerability leave me
- I learnt to live with more compassion through meditation and Buddha
- I didn't split
- Exercised more and practised self care